Jan 02 2017

Tinder adventures

Category: English posts,PersonalIuliana @ 20:58

This post was here before in a different format and it generated so much hate I had to hide it for a while until I made a decision about its new shape that maybe will be better than the original one.

I occasionally use Tinder. Chastise me if you wish, but I live in a small city, I have a peculiar character, my group of friends and acquaintances does not contain any eligible bachelors  and my hobbies are mostly solitary, thus I have really limited occasions to meet new people. Tinder is but a way to initiate a first contact with someone safely and analyze the person before I decide if I want to meet him in person. (Yeah, apparently no matter how much it pisses me off, I am definitely hetero.) The first interaction based on Tinder is online which is quite nice. Behind a device  and talking with somebody that they might never meet, people tend to be really honest or a least act as the version of them they want to be and this is the best version of them, otherwise … they won’t be getting any. All the guys I met on Tinder and decided to meet in real life up until now were quite nice. Some of them turned out to be weird in a way that was incompatible with my weirdness, but decent guys nonetheless. But there is an issue I would like to address.

Grammar: when you flirt in writing, you’d better know your grammar. I do not know what type of women can be found on Tinder usually, but I am an educated woman with a career, peculiar character and little time on my hands. I am unfortunately smart, so I need mental and physical stimulation to be turned on. So if you make grammar mistakes like using your instead of you’re when you mean you are, believe me, you have blown your chance to ever meet me. The only time when mistakes are allowed is when the language in which you chose to communicate is not your native one. You can imagine how fun is online flirting in Romanian, because Romanian is not an easy language. For me it’s gotten so bad that I just can’t exchange written messages with Romanian guys. It’s such a turn off that I basically given up using Tinder in my country, unless the guy is a tourist.

First I thought this is something temporary, and that I could get used to it, I mean … it was quite clear what they meant. But the last two guys that I was interested in, were like this: one was a guy that got his speaking and writing start in German and has an excellent English knowledge and a sweet Polish guy I met this week in Vienna.

So yeah, I have a big problem. If I want to settle in this small mountain city and make a life here, I will probably have to accept the fact that I will be a loner. Or meet someone in my numerous travels and hope they will love me and this city so much that they will decide to move here, or that I will love him so much that I will decide to give up my small mountain city.

I have no idea what my future will be like, but I can only hope it will be good. I will try my best to make it so, but when it comes to matters of the heart, it does not depend only on me.

Stay safe, stay happy!

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